Relationships don't always run smoothly. Counseling for couples in crisis and conflict situations, information on separation and divorce, and support services for the period afterward can be helpful.
Separation means that the partners no longer live together or share a common life. Divorce is the legal step to officially end a marriage.
Yes. A separation period of one year is generally required for an uncontested divorce. During this time, it is determined whether the marriage has truly irretrievably broken down.
The separation does not necessarily have to be declared in court or by a notary. It is sufficient if at least one spouse clearly informs the other that they wish to end the marital relationship – preferably in writing.
After separation, joint custody usually remains in place. You will continue to make important decisions together. Decisions about day-to-day life are generally made by the parent with primary care. In case of disputes, the family court can make a ruling. Important: Your child has a right to contact with both parents.
Yes, there is spousal maintenance during separation (until the divorce) and post-divorce maintenance (after the divorce). There is also child support, which is paid regardless of marital status. The amount depends on income and need, so further claims may exist depending on the situation.
Separation is often stressful for children. It's important that your child maintains reliable relationships with both parents and isn't drawn into conflicts. Talk to your child openly, in an age-appropriate and honest way. It helps if you explain together what's changing – and what's staying the same. Your child needs security and the feeling of still being loved.
Children need time to process a separation. Consistent routines, clear agreements, and regular contact with both parents provide guidance and support. In this difficult situation, your child needs security and the feeling of still being loved.
In Bremen, there are counseling centers for parents, children, and families. They can support you with questions about custody, child support, and daily life after separation, and can address your specific situation. For financial arrangements, it may be advisable to consult a lawyer.
